#4. Postcards from the edge: Real-life questions from struggling smokers
“I quit smoking for 2 months then began to smoke occasionally whilst out drinking. I managed to keep it to that for a while (just smoking while drinking) but I’ve caved in this morning and am back to smoking properly. I’m afraid that I “lose it” when drinking alcohol. I’m so upset and disappointed with myself. Any words of advice for me please? Theo, Perth, Australia
Well done for getting in touch — I’m sure that I can set your mind at rest in my reply.
Firstly, you shouldn’t feel obliged to stop drinking alcohol in an attempt to succeed in stopping smoking. If you actually wish to stop drinking alcohol that’s quite another thing and once you’re happy non-smoker you can address whether to make that decision then. If you eventually do decide that you’d like to quit drinking then please do look into our phenomenally successful alcohol programme.
The most important point is — you do not have to quit drinking to successfully quit smoking — just as long as you understand how the smoking trap works.
There are two main reasons that alcohol causes an issue when someone stops smoking (it’s a big subject and is covered in much more detail at our Live Group Seminars).
- There are those who quit smoking using willpower: they aren’t fortunate enough to have used Allen Carr’s Easyway method and have decided to tough it out on their own. It’s like a white knuckle ride as they hang on for grim life resisting the urge to smoke. As soon as they have an alcoholic drink…that tight grip begins to loosen and they fall back into smoking as if they never quit. This can also happen to those who used Allen Carr’s Easyway to Stop Smoking without success. For some reason the method doesn’t always gel for some people first time (which is why we offer free of charge back up seminars at our centres and free of charge advice to those who fail to quit with the book…it normally just takes a few words of advice and guidance from us to slot things into place).
- There are those who quit smoking using Allen Carr’s Easyway but fail to heed our warning about overconfidence: they find it easy to quit smoking and at some point down the line have a casual, throwaway thought about maybe trying a cigarette. They don’t even want a cigarette — they just flippantly think, “why not?” and find out what we say is true. It takes just one puff of a cigarette, cigar, pipe, or joint with tobacco in it to lead them back into the trap.
In either case, people either hurtle back into the smoking trap —returning to smoking at their previous level straight away or they put the brakes on, rebuke themselves, and decide not to smoke again putting it down to a silly mistake on their part. They’re determined that they won’t let it happen again.
The problem is, psychologically, a week or two later — in the same kind of situation — in a pub, a bar, or a club, their conscious and subconscious mind begins to unravel all their willpower-driven determination and/or the counter-brainwashing achieved by Allen Carr’s Easyway.
A little voice appears in their mind:
“You got away with it last week and haven’t smoked since…Allen Carr was wrong…you CAN have the occasional cigarette!”
One thing leads to another and the gaps between cigarettes get closer and closer together until the smoker eventually ends up where you are Theo. A fully fledged smoker again.
The fact is, you became a smoker again the moment you lit that first casual, meaningless, flippant cigarette…the rest of your journey was the inevitable consequence of that act. It’s only after that, when you’ve let nicotine back into your body, and the brainwashing back into your mind, that cigarettes and alcohol appear to become inseparable again.
Some of the greatest party animals in modern history have used Allen Carr’s Easyway to Quit Smoking and continued to “tear up the town” disgracefully as happy non-smokers.
Theo, you will find your way to freedom again, and you will once again find it easy to quit, but never, ever, ever let that fool you into thinking you could have the occasional cigarette with a drink.
Once Allen Carr’s Easyway method truly gels for you, you will truly cherish your freedom, celebrate your freedom, and genuinely value your freedom. No matter how little, or how much you drink, you’ll be no more likely to stick a cigarette in your mouth than in your ear.
To get you back to being a happy non-smoker please do use our free of charge support service on the link below. A few extra words of advice from us is all you need in order for the method to work for you properly.
Support Link: Anyone reading this piece, experiencing similar (or entirely different) issues with stopping smoking can obtain free of charge advice from us via the following link. To obtain that guidance select SUPPORT on the link below. You’ll then get to fill out a short questionnaire about your experience with the method — and based on that — a senior Allen Carr Therapist will provide you with bespoke, detailed, free of charge advice on how to get the method to gel for you https://www.allencarr.com/contact-us/
Take care Theo, value your freedom & you’ll be home and dry once and for all!
John at Allen Carr
The name on the “postcard” has been changed to protect the sender’s identify.
From the desk John C. Dicey, London, England.
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